The Humor in New Year's Resolutions

Another year passed. Just like that, the merriment is over and the "Christmas Spirit" is already gone though I am still glad that the Christmas air is still here. :)

For the reason that it is still the first week of January, a lot of people are still clinging to trend of New Year's Resolution. 

What does RESOLUTION mean exactly? 

res·o·lu·tion

  (rĕz′ə-lo͞o′shən)

n.

1. The state or quality of being resolute; firm determination: faced the situation with resolution.

2.

a. A firm decision to do something: made a resolution to get more exercise.

b. A course of action determined or decided on: His resolution is to get up early.

Source: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/resolution

Resolutions, according to the definition above, are FIRM DECISIONS to DO SOMETHING. This, my friends, is the reason why I was always so hesitant to make one. These are not just a temporary thing, not just something you utter simply because it is new year and you are still high on hopes and possibilities that life will be better this year just because it is new year and just because your feng shui master says so. 

Resolutions are huge responsibilities. There is nothing wrong with making one but you have to create it based on an absolute  trust that you can actually make it happen no matter what the odds are. It is comic how others would say "New Year, New Me" when in fact, they are not even planning to do something to recreate themselves. If we keep on doing the same mistakes and procrastinate just like before, you have no right to expect for things to get well. gBesides, it is not only during New Year where we can make our resolutions. If you are firm to the decision that you are open to better things, ACT. 

Catfight: The Disgusting Truth

I grew up in a society highly encouraging women to respect, support and help each other. I remember hearing about several organizations promoting one thing -- the rights of women. I am not writing to enumerate those rights. This is to let the whole world know how times have changed and how women, who are supposed to look after other women, are now becoming the antagonist in each other's lives. 

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The unhealthy competition happens everywhere. 

Occurring everyday in the workplace where backstabbing, sourgraping, and defamation is very prominent. You wear a skirt or something that makes you feel good about yourself will only get you judging looks from other women. Looks that are probably bore out of massive envy or bitterness that they cannot express themselves like that because they are too scared of what other people would think about them.

The unnecessary competition exists between friends. The comparison between lives, husbands or boyfriends, jobs, children, apartments, hairstyle, purses, lipsticks and the tiniest and shallowest of all things is disgusting. People can be greater or lesser. Some may have more, some may have less, by choice or by fate.  Deal with it. Stop comparing because life is not a venn diagram. 

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This year, stop getting involved with someone else's husband, stop staring at women who chose not to "conform", stop comparing yourself with others, quit spreading rumors and start setting a better example and LIVE! 

The catfight is a disgusting truth. My dream someday is for it to be completely gone. I am not a misogynist. I am a woman who is both the antagonist and the protagonist of my life and others' but now that I am in complete desire to be totally free and happy, I am making my own tiny steps towards change. 

The Inner Voice Demands to be Heard

I could still remember the pressure that was on me a year ago when I just graduated and seeking for a job. It took me three weeks to finally land on my first real job. Not once have I thought that things are going to be easy in the real world. I went out and did what I have to- and that's to earn my own money to support my being materialistic. I spent most of my days happily embracing mediocrity. Thinking that all the discontentment shall pass and maybe I was just going through a phase. At times, I would find myself unhappy and unable to fulfill my function because I'm feeling too exhausted and detached. My mind drifts someplace else. I think it often goes to this perfect little world where insecurity, competition, and perfection is non-existent. 

I am obviously unhappy. It is very hard to conform. 

I tried to shut my inner voice out. But I realized that it demands to be heard and there's nothing I can do to stop it from getting into me. Inner voices never lie. It speaks what your heart truly wants. You'll probably be surprised that it knows you better than yourself. That is why we must listen and never ignore it. Follow it whenever you are ready. Be courageous enough to let change come in. 

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Two Birds

I've been listening to too many Regina Spektor song recently that I decided to name this article after one of her song that I can relate to the most. 

The feeling of having someone whom you can share your dreams with is probably the safest and most wonderful feeling I had. My belief for this one person was too much and probably became to overwhelming for him also. I had so many dreams and most of those required him in the picture. That, probably, scared the bird away. 

I could not understand it at the beginning. I got very confused and disappointed because things are never going to happen as planned. The bird told me that we want the same thing but apparently, it got tired pretending so I was left all alone. It was so hard to put the pieces back. My dreams were shattered. We both wanted to fly but apparently, on opposite directions. 

Time passed and wounds healed. I can only thank the bird for flying away. I thought it was the worst thing a person did to me but now I am thinking otherwise. It flew away because flying together is not going to bring us the happiness we thought we can get from each other. It did flew away to set us both free from things we perceived to be our binding similarities. 

It was the bird who kept me from flying and it was I who kept him from joining his flock. Now that we have both flown, you and I can truly be free and happy because putting something caged in a fantasy will just make you lonely in the end. After all, birds are all created fly.